Why Do Asexuals...

I rather enjoyed doing the google questions a very short while back, and I like answering questions, so guys, if you have a question, ask. Or just eat cake. I don't know - what do you do for fun? Answering questions, and so I'm going to answer some.

I have a few answers: some assuming that some great deity exists, and one that doesn't. So you can pick:

a) Asexuals exist because of the same reasons that variation occurs in humans as a whole. And because of the same reasons that a variety of sexual orientations exist.

b) A great deity saw the state of the world and decided that too many people were obsessed with sex, sex, sex, and decided to do something about it.

c) A great deity thought that the world could do with more bakers. (see next question)

d) This great deity is asexual themselves but couldn't model the world to their specifications (perhaps there's a world-creating committee and they decide what happens on each world) so decided to create some asexy awesomeness as their contribution.

Aces like cake. Cake can be enjoyed in small pieces. People don't think you're odd for not liking, enjoying, or eating cake. Cake is a pleasant and delightful thing to eat, and it's also enjoyable while baking and making it, and making and baking cake is fairly productive too. Cake is everything awesome that we need in our lives and it's very cool.

And cakes don't talk either.

Depends entirely on the asexual person in question, but the black ring is a sign of asexuality. Generally it's on the middle finger of the right hand, but some aces prefer to have theirs on other fingers.

When I finally get myself a black ring, I'm going to call it my Ring Of Power. Or Fluffy, even though it won't be fluffy. If I'm going for anything, it's going to be simple.

I'm going to stab these two at the same time. But not literally. That would break my laptop.

But first:

Sexual attraction: "Hey, I'd really like to do 'it' with that person,"

Romantic attraction: "Hey, I think I'd like to have a few dates and a relationship with them,"

Note: these terms are somewhat subjective and I haven't even got started on sensual and aesthetic attraction yet, which are doubly subjective and somewhat disputed too. But anyway.

Asexual people don't experience sexual attraction. It's not in their nature. But romantic attraction? It depends on the ace. Plenty of aces experience romantic attraction and do wish to be in a romantic relationship. Ergo, why they date, and even marry. They may get involved with other aces, or with sexual people (A good amount of being open about feelings can go a long way here).

...And plenty of others, like myself, have no interest in such an area. And as long as we're happy, we're fine.

"Do You Want A Boyfriend?"

"Do you want a boyfriend?"

No.

"Don't you want to get married?"

No.

"But don't you want kids?"

Not really, no.

"But when you're old, won't you be lonely?"

No.

The world is made up of people, and a vast majority of those people are into sex and relationships and who's hot and who's sexy and damn would I tap that ass. (whatever people mean by that, I have no idea!)

I know I've joked about my misunderstanding of 'hot' (as in good-looking, attractive sort of thing rather than uncomfortably warm, as I used to always presume) but the actual scene itself wasn't just about that misunderstanding, but also about another part of my life.

I was 11-12, and a couple of my mates were on a computer in a classroom, looking at this gallery of 'hot guys.' They were all fairly famous people. They asked me about a few of them, and after the expected literal sense, (and going through the same literalness with the word 'fit' too), I only thought 'meh.' There was nothing really interesting to fawn over like these girls so obviously were, it was all just skin and eyes and hair and you can see that sort of thing easily at your local park or museum or library or your next door neighbour's house. All such venues also have something else to bring you there to as well, from taking a walk to catching up with a friend. Nothing special about their looks.

These mates would go on to have crushes and such while I would be there, just thinking "I could not give a shit." Romance was far from my mind as I talked to people in general. I've never cared about romance, particularly, it was all dull and weird and why anyone would want it when it creates a whole lot of faff for little reason, nope, not a clue. Most people are fulfilled by it, I know now, but I am not one of those people. Lots of people are fulfilled by sex also, but I know I won't be. My life isn't worse off for the lack of these things. True, I may never fall into romantic love with that random person I connect to for some strange reason, but I will also never be dumped by that person either, I won't have to waste endless energy trying to impress people in that way, and I can concentrate on other stuff I actually enjoy, instead, (like writing this blog now!) no taking partners into consideration.

Unfortunately, the world is biased against people who just couldn't care less. I must have had a million conversations in High School like the one above, where classmates - usually girls - don't seem able to comprehend any path that isn't along the lines of get married, have children. They seemed to be under the impression that you can't be happy without going on this path, well, some of us will be happier going a different way. The world wants babies, but we have enough of those already. Too many people think that you have to be attracted to someone somewhere, that everyone wants a relationship like that. They're wrong.

This is your asexual, aromantic blogger, signing off.

(Anyone interested in further information may like to check out AVEN - the Asexual Visibility and Education Network)

He's Hot!

Based on a real misunderstanding. Duh.